14 de fevereiro de 2015

50 Shades of Grey - No Color Indeed

Passion is made out of colors, music, friction, flavors, and scents. "50 Shades of Grey" (2015), a movie about limits and passion, is a pale resemblance of all that. So pale we can't barely recognize those elements in the movie. It was by accident I watched it, but afterwards, I couldn't stop thinking about how such a weak story-line can fascinate so many people.

Its problems go way beyond the idea or topic out of what its plot was firstly outlined. The insipid dialogue, poor characters, and bad writing play along with the expectations of a misled audience that sighs and chuckles at every scene. The issue here is this misconception of the audience.

And I'm not talking about the sexual interest of the characters in the movie. I'm not rebuking any kind of consensual sexual behavior here. Sex is different to everyone and no sexual behavior can be labeled as right or wrong. It's just that they can be necessary or unnecessary to some people at times. Morality may mess things up a bit and makes blind judges of something we barely know of, so let's put it aside for the sake of seeing things from a more empathetic point of view here. To some, sex needs to be more extreme in order to cause one pleasure, and as long as this behavior doesn't infringe the other person's freedom, nor harms them at any matter, they can do whatever it pleases them. However, manipulating a situation in order to get what you want from a person whose mind is not made on the subject yet, that's a crime. there's a fine line between rape and a very intense sexual experience, which is more related to one's perception of the act than the act itself. So my problem with the movie is not about its approach on the characters' sexual interests and curiosities. What bothers me is this blind passion that makes people lose sight of whom they really are, allowing the object of their affection to manipulate them just to have them around.

Many Anastasias crave for romance, while they subdue themselves to a boundary-ignoring character that is both massively manipulative and emotionally abusive. If those Anastasias were our friends, we'd be truly upset and feel nothing but repulse regarding their relationship and would at least try to warn them. But when the fictional Anastasia has her body abused and her mind twisted over and over by a gorgeous Mr. Grey, the audience (mostly women and gay men) bites their lips and sighs at all the looks filled with desire he gives her.

What if that man were twenty years older, bald, fat, hairy, poor and shorter? Would that same audience accept his behavior and chuckle at all his moves?

What gives a handsome, strong and rich man the power to be accepted as a sociopathic abuser? None of what Christian does in that movie is romantic, however the audience seems to be mesmerized by his looks and approves all of his deeds.

In a movie about bondage, characters who have no bonds except the erotic desire of having what the other cannot offer connect to an audience that has been craving for love, but it is again and again fooled by a beautiful pair of eyes, a nice shaped body, or a fat bank account that messes with their concepts of love, passion and relationship.

Most people I know want a stable relationship, others want to enjoy their freedom and have no emotional attachment (and there's nothing wrong about either position they've taken). However, opposites attract and many of the first ones end up in a relationship of any sort with the last ones and suffering because of that. They cry because their lovers treat them indifferently, violently, obsessively and/or possessively. They don't notice their differences in interest generate expectations that can't be met. And fearing to lose something they actually do not have, they subdue to an emotional torture (worse than the the physical one that depending on the context could even be pleasurable).

Because of a lack of wisdom and self-esteem, they suffer a sick relationship hoping to change the other with the power of a love that actually does not exist. Because where there is need, there is no actual love. And two needy beggars can't satiate each other's hunger.

Life is an experience of pleasure and pain. But it's the way we react to both pleasure and pain that makes life full of colors, music, friction, flavors, and scents. Movies like Ultimo Tango a Parigi (1972)Perfume: The Story of a Murderer (2006), American Psycho (2000), or even Dogville (2003) made use of all those elements to make pieces of art that twist our minds in a powerful way. 50 Shades of Grey is a flawed attempt to reproduce the effect those and so many other movies had reached before.

Even though, most people in the room were truly taking the bait, which made me think most of those may have had no real experience with love or even good sex at any rate.

Love is not made out of chocolate and flowers. Love is made out of intimacy, which is not acquired with the vision of a naked body cuddling with you in bed but with the comprehension of a naked soul bestowed upon you in life. The sad thing is that passion usually vanishes as long as love takes place. And many people are afraid of making love or having sex with that "gorgeous guy or girl" that turned into a "friend" or a "family member" after a while. It seems wrong and inappropriate. So they need to recover that spark that caused their souls to catch on fire at first. They need to feel strangers again, discover each other once more. And because of that endless search for renewal, they forget to enjoy each other's company, to appreciate small gestures, to react to each other's touch. Many people think they can spice things up a bit using props, and they forget the strongest prop of all is their own brain.

Passion blinds us. Love unfolds us. Passion makes us possessive. Love makes us open the birdcage, because we know if love is reciprocal, the bird won't fly away for it will be fond of our presence. And if it flies, we'll be pleased by the beauty of its freedom.

Passion makes us needy. Love makes us whole. And because we are whole, everything that comes is a reason to be grateful for. We don't expect the other to do certain things, but we are truly happy when they do them.

And because most people haven't experienced that so often, they connect more easily with stories of disconnection. Bondage without bonds. They need a weak-sauce movie like 50 Shades of Grey to remind them of all that.

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